Little Mama On The Prairie

A life and weight-loss journey.

Doing it all? Not really…

on April 30, 2013

One question I get asked quite frequently is “How do you do it all?!” By “all”, they are referring to my life as the wife of a busy farmer, mother of 2 crazily busy toddlers (can I still call a 3-year-old a toddler?), housekeeper, student, photographer, blogger, Facebook addict, and crazy woman attempting to lose 100 lbs by working out and watching what I eat. Literally, I look down and watch each bite as it goes into my mouth. Sooo good. Sorry.

The short answer is, I don’t. And I don’t do it well. Today is a good example and I’ll get to that in a bit. So, my alarm is set to go off at 6am, from Monday through Saturday…7:30 on Sundays. Most days, I get up at 6, go to the kitchen table, open my laptop and start working on school. I was starting with devotions for a while but kept finding myself falling asleep in the middle of prayer so decided to move that to a time of day when I’d had some caffeine. Once mommy radar goes off saying the kids will be waking up within about 1/2 hour, I shut down school and go into workout mode. Our daughter usually joins me about half-way through and lets me know if I’m doing a good job or if “that doesn’t look like what the lady on TV is doing.” By the time  I’m done being humiliated by my daughter,  sonny-boy is usually awake and calling from his crib to be gotten.

Next comes breakfast which usually is accompanied by several frustrated and raised voice commands for my daughter to return to her chair and not leave it until that bowl of cereal is empty, to which she usually responds that she needs me to feed it to her. Seriously? Sonny-boy feeds himself with delight. He also feeds the walls around him, the floor and every nook and cranny of his high chair. By the time the kids and I are done breakfast and I’ve just about gotten everyone cleaned up, my husband will come in from checking the cattle and he’ll start his breakfast during which the kids crowd around him with their mouths wide open like a pair of little birdies waiting for their regurgitated worms…and as if they haven’t eaten in a week.

I won’t bore you with details of the entire day but suffice it to say from breakfast to bedtime, most of my time is either spent preparing meals and snacks, or cleaning up after them. Most days I don’t attempt to work on any of my schooling during day hours just because of all the interruptions that can and do occur. I clean the house…when there is known company coming. So if you ever show up unannounced, well, what you see is our “normal” for now.

By 9:30 or 10:00 at night the house is finally somewhat in order again and the kids are asleep so there is peace and quiet once again. Then I am usually faced with the choice of spending some much needed time with my husband…or working on school again. Unfortunately, deadlines often mean I have to spend the time with earphones jammed in as far as they go and foot positioned on the pedal (my rewind, play, fast forward button for dictations). I often work until 11:30-12:00 at night and then start again at 6am.

That brings me to today. Some days the exhaustion just catches up to me and I cannot pull myself out of bed. And I didn’t get out of it until 9:30 today. Even now, my eyes are droopy and my head feels heavy but I have a chapter due today and still have 8 dictations left to type before the end of the day. Patience is low today which, unfortunately, means I am less than gracious to the children, especially when they begin using their whiny voices and push each others buttons, which in turn pushes my buttons. I think it will be a good day for both of them to have a nap. I wish I could say its a good day for me to have a nap too but I have too much to catch up on during that peaceful time so I will hopefully get in my workout and then be able to finish several dictations so I won’t have to stay up until 2am doing those.

I. Do. Not. Do. It. All. I simply do the best I can with what our circumstances are right now, knowing that someday it will change and hopefully become a more manageable form of busy. I won’t hold out hope that it will ever be less busy. One thing I do that does help most of the time is prioritize. Right now, I have 3 main priorities in my day-to-day life, making sure my family is fed, relatively clean and mostly content, finishing my schooling on time, getting my health and weight under control to make the rest of my life a little easier to bear. So what that means is if I get nothing else accomplished in a day, I need to get my family fed, school finished, exercise in and be mindful of what I eat. That is a good and accomplished day for me. If anything else like cleaning a toilet or baking a batch of cookies happens, it’s a bonus and a miracle. I have let go of the fact that my house is not as clean as others’. I have let go of the fact that I don’t get to socialize with other young moms as much as they seem to get to. I have a few great friends who I text with throughout the week and they are my lifeline when my life feels like its going overboard with crazy. I spend a LOT of time at home.

So please, don’t ever read my blog and think, man, she has it all together, I just don’t know how she does it all. Because I really, really don’t. And I will try to keep things as real as possible on here to help keep you from getting that idea about me.

 


4 Responses to “Doing it all? Not really…”

  1. Shauna says:

    You really are amazing! I totally get the food in every nook and cranny of the high chair! I often have to remind myself that the state of my house is not a reflection of who I am – and I have to remember that my real friends care more about me than caring what my house looks like. Sometimes I think I have it all together…then I look under my top cupboards…(wow….how does THAT get so gross!) or accidentally give Stephen a whole container of leftover potatoes for his lunch. Anyway…thanks again for sharing with others Sara.

    • Little Mama says:

      Haha, I bet he LOVED that lunch! Too funny, I can totally see myself doing that. In my house its anything that is above 5 feet that gets neglected. I’ll step on a stool and get a head full of cobwebs and think, when did that get there?

  2. Barb says:

    HI
    I feel for you, as I know how you feel as I was there once in my life. Very busy but very rewarding at the same time to watch my kids grow and who cares how messy your house it, it is lived in and Loved by everyone that does come to visit unannounced. You grasp life and go with it, I love your energy. You are a great role model for other moms with some children.
    Barb

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